Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are

Many successful people fear being discovered as an imposter. So when you feel like you don’t know what you’re doing, you’re in good company!

body languageOne bit of self-help that really helps is the idea of “embodied cognition”, or how our posture and body affect our emotions as well as the reverse. Think of putting your hands on your hips, or flying like a superhero or the winner’s pose on a podium, literally, before a high-stakes social evaluation like a job interview, presentation, or speech.

body language

It makes you feel more confident, therefore you project confidence, and people will find you more credible, likeable, etc. Sound weird? Try it out after watching the TED talk on how body language shapes who you are, or read the Harvard study.

And remember, you’re good. Otherwise you wouldn’t be there.


*Thanks to Jack Malcolm at Practical Eloquence for reminding me of this phenom.

Bernie works with small, medium (and sometimes) large companies, start-ups, and volunteer organizations to help them set a vision that is executable, to be effective, and to surround themselves with people who will help them succeed. I believe the workplace is a place to thrive, not just survive. Call me if you want help transforming your business. 


The Power of Confidence

In a 1993 interview about working with designer Paul Rand, Steve Jobs talks about how Paul set expectations for respect of his work up front:

“I asked him if he would come up with a few options. And he said, “No. I will solve your problem for you. And you will pay me. And you don’t have to use the solution. If you want options, go talk to other people. But I’ll solve your problem for you the best way I know how. And you use it or not. That’s up to you. You’re the client. But you pay me.” And there was a clarity about the relationship that was refreshing.”

Is your confidence working for or against you?

Things We’re Bad At

Some things that humans are bad at: predicting the future, reading minds, and seeing ourselves as others see us. Which explains why stupid people are often confident out of proportion to their skill, knowledge, or experience . . .

. . . and sometimes being confidence is more important than being smart. Which explains why so many stupid people survive long enough to reproduce. Good news: confidence is easy to fake.