Consider awareness, amiability, and acceptance in terms of being persuasive and influential, as told by a former FBI counter-intelligence officer and interrogator.
One of my biggest challenges as a business coach is to get people to change their behaviours, that drives change inside their own business. Ironic, eh? Often the barrier is actually taking the time to critically think deeply about what behaviours would drive the most change.
This article from Kristy Hull on “Getting to the Critical Few Behaviors That Can Drive Cultural Change” reminded me of the “5 Whys” exercise. I think I’ll use it today.
“Why?”, you ask. Well, let me tell you…
Can’t get traction on the changes that need to happen? Consider finding and using the informal leaders in your company.
In my region of the world, and in my adopted city, things aren’t good for many companies. It’s been a struggle for a few years.
I like to ask “What’s the opportunity in this grind?” But Brandon Webb say it better: “Embrace the Suck“, and find the gold in the muck.
Recent article suggests that raw IQ may not be as important to desirable, real-world outcomes as critical thinking skills, and further goes on to imply that you can learn, practice, and improve those skills.
Also known as “why smart people make stupid decisions”.
What are your best critical thinking skills?
Many leaders don’t…it’s all about setting the example
Get a text? Call them. Get an email? Call them back? Carrier pigeon ready to go out? Call them instead.
There are three advantages to talking versus using technology:
a. You make contact with people and build relationships
b. You hear the context in the tone of their voice
c. You solve problems much more quickly
So the next time you get an e-mail, respond with “Call Me” instead of replying
I believe that big changes starts with small behaviours. Actual work, however seemingly insignificant, makes a huge difference over time. I also recognize (mostly from my behaviour) that getting started and keeping started is often the hardest part.
Terry Crews, a former NFL linebacker and now television personality. He talks about how he used to “just go to the gym, even if it’s just to hang out and have a cappuccino.” He knew you can’t work out if you’re not there, and you won’t go there if you don’t enjoy yourself. So he went, every day, even if it was just to open his locker.
I think the lesson here is to deliberate choose a goal (play guitar, go to the gym, better dental hygiene, be a better leader, increase sales, grow a business), figure out the one minimal thing you need to do to get better at it, and do that one thing every day.
Straightforwardness, thoughtfulness, accountability, and resolve.
…the elements of a caring mindset. Do you think this would help you professionally and why?
Thanks Jeff for the recommendation
Flossing just one tooth (getting started, doing it regularly) isn’t the only thing we need to do to change a habit, but it comes first. Make no mistake, leadership and coaching is a skill and a habit that can be learned.
To learn a new skill or habit, we need deliberately practice. For example, I like the song “Jamaica Farewell” (the Belafonte version, my mother used to have the LP and a lazy smile every time she played it.) When I wanted to learn to play guitar that’s the song I chose.
If “Jamaica Farewell” was the only song I every practised on my guitar I would only every learn three chords, and it would get boring really fast. I would be able to play a kick-ass version of that song, but it has its limits. To get better, have fun, and master the guitar I should and do challenge myself with progressively more difficult material over time.
Consistency and intentional practice – that’s how you get better. Even as a leader.
What are you going to practise today?